I love this quote by my mentor. How often do you say things like, “If only I could get rid of love handles” or “I wish I could lose 10 pounds in the next week so I don’t look fat in my dress”? When you look into the mirror, what chatter goes on in your mind? What things do you find yourself saying in your head? On our weight loss journey, we are trained to think that certain diets and exercise regimens would work. When they don’t, we automatically think we failed ourselves because we did something wrong. There are two roadblocks that stand in our way of loving our body into change:
1. We want immediate gratification. We want to see results now, we want to be thin now. Weight loss takes time. Creating a foundation to sustaining our weight loss through diet and exercise takes time. Wanting to see quick results and not getting them when we want creates a stress response. Rather than our body working for us, stress acts counterintuitively to our intentions.
2. We want perfection. We were taught by the media and by society that anything less than perfect is unacceptable. For example, we seek perfection in the way we execute our diets, in the amount of time we exercise, in the way we look, in the way things in our lives should go. We become rigid in our pursuit of perfection, never allowing ourselves to trust the journey. When things do not go as planned, we lose confidence in ourselves and all the negative self-judgement lives another day. You are not perfect. The question is, do you forgive yourself for being imperfect?
Life is unpredictable. We cannot expect to be perfect. We are human and we mess up. It is okay to let go of wanting to control the outcome. In our weight loss journey or on our road to better health, nothing will be straightforward. There will be dips, curves, and plateaus along the way. Will you trust in yourself and forgive yourself for the inevitable falls and the mistakes and keep travelling on that road? Can you show yourself grace?
“It is God who arms me with strength and makes my way perfect” (Psalm 18:32).