Do you ever wake up in the morning to check your Instagram first thing and increasingly feel bad the more you scroll through others’ “perfect lives”, envious experiences, or good fortune? We are giving the power to the grid instead of to ourselves, and it is time to change that.
We are abundantly self-critical in a negative, loud, and persistent way. That type of dialogue is unrelenting, and if we don’t know what to do to quiet it down, it can and will affect how we show up for our businesses, our clients, and potential opportunities for growth and success.
What are some ways we can deal with the commanding presence of Ms. Critical?
Here are 4 ways that will help strengthen the self-loving dialogue and create an abundance of that you can quickly use in times of bubbling self-criticism:
What nurtures and gives room for the self-criticism to grow? Where is it coming from or what activates it? Notice what gets you out of self-criticism and into joy. Choose what you consume or act on wisely.
CREATE EVOLVING HABITS
You can start small and create an evolving habit out of it. For example, after you have identified Instagram as a culprit, you can delay checking it first thing in the morning by 15 minutes. You can create a morning routine you can replace it with, such as walk over to your window to take in the day or journal a bit. This habit can evolve as you grow - you can add an additional 15 minutes to your morning routine, then add another.
CULTIVATE A POSITIVE MINDSET
It takes time to cultivate a positive mindset, which means that you need to be proactive in cultivating it daily. Grow your arsenal of self-love instead of building your self-critical army. Create a list of what helps you get into a good mindset so you can refer to it daily.
RECOGNIZE THE REAL ISSUE
Why is your inner critic louder than before? What are you doing that is new or different? Is it disguised as fear or perfectionism? Doing something new, like launching a new offer or learning to speak up more for yourself, will always bring up doubts and fears. That is normal. When you recognize that, you can deal with the inner critic more effectively. Instead of giving your inner critic power, you practice giving yourself grace as you deal with your fear, for example.
Our inner critic thrives on our lack of attention to what is really going on. It knows your weak spot and lives there. Become aware of your own weak spots, create a habit that strengthens you mentally (and emotionally!), and cultivate a positive mindset daily. When you have a game plan for dealing with your inner critic, you will be able to focus on what matters most to you without letting it get in the way. And when the real issue is something else other than plain ol’ criticism, focus your attention on overcoming that instead of directing it to distractions the inner critic is trying to cause.
I’ll leave you with this note: let your inner critic fuel you instead of knock you down. Anytime it comes out, let it light a fire under you and spur you into action. Build your positive mindset muscle. Strengthen your self-love dialogue. Activate good habits that bring you joy. Let Ms. Critic be a reminder that you need to focus on strengthening what needs your attention, because in the long run, your habits, your self-love dialogue, and your positive mindset will help you with opportunities, growth, and success in your life and business.
What resonated most with you? Let me know in the comments below!